‘The Bachelor: The Women Tell All’ continues the gaslighting

As far as reunions go, this was depressing.

Everyone looked tired, and few seemed to have learned a damn thing.

On ABC’s “The Bachelor: The Women Tell All,” host Chris Harrison gathered 15 of the season’s allegedly more memorable women to dish on their season.

You might have expected that having the luxury of time, distance, and the opportunity to see their drama reflected on the small screen might have helped some of these singles view their behavior in a new light.

The women quickly squashed that notion.

Chelsea and Serena C., two of the season’s biggest disappointments, blame Katie for the toxicity in the house. Their argument seems to amount to: Because she named it, she owns it.

Sure, Jans.

Harrison then spends the next segment reviewing the most vicious bullying in the house, starting with that not-so-small rumor Anna started about Brittany being an escort.

Y’know, the rumor that is the first that appears whenever anyone Googles Brittany.

But sure, let’s blame Katie.

As footage shows, Brittany entered the house as a fun, confident woman, and within 24 hours, she was broken by the rumor, one which she fears will dog her for the rest of her life.

Anna apologizes and blames her anger issues. “Everything I did in the situation was wrong. I’m sorry.”

Katie’s moment in the hot seat touches on a recurring, sad theme with the women: abject gratitude to Matt James for letting them be themselves, despite the inevitable rejections.

Did he really do that, or did he just let them talk and affirm everything they said to avoid difficult conversations?

As one after another of the women talk about how great Matt is, it becomes obvious, again, just how hellish dating actually is, especially for women, who worry about putting their best faces forward.

Katie is 30 and questioning why she is still single. Abigail feels as if she straddles the deaf and hearing worlds and belongs to neither.

Serena P. stands by her decision to end her time with Matt.

Matt finally takes the stage, but no one has the courage to tell him the truth.

That beard is so not attractive.

Again, Matt says all the right things about learning, accountability, and wishing the women well. It’s a wonder he doesn’t join hands with them for a group sing.

Oh, hey, it's Victoria and her crown. (Photo: ABC).
Oh, hey, it’s Victoria and her crown. (Photo: ABC).

Victoria, no one’s queen, the woman who has been getting the majority of the night’s cutaways and close-ups, gets her moment to explain her drama bubbled from her fear of rejection.


There was a montage of Matt’s icky kisses in which he stares down the women.

The end-of-season teaser promises more family drama – from Matt’s parents.

Of course, the credits sequence goes to Victoria, and a montage of her abusing the word “literally.”

And may her reign now be ended.

It’s really not surprising that what should have been a landmark season, one starring the franchise’s first Black bachelor, has turned into a debacle.

The season offered more women of color than any other, and producers chose to focus on the drama of primarily nasty white women instead of the love stories happening around them.

With two weeks remaining, viewers know little of finalists Bri and Michelle. We’ve seen too much of Racist, I mean, Rachael.

Harrison, after some truly tone-deaf comments to former “Bachelorette” Rachel Lindsay on her podcast about Rachael’s past problematic behaviors, has taken a break from the show.

Emmanuel Echo will host the “After the Final Rose” special on March 15. There’s going to be a lot to talk about, and there’s no evidence yet that “The Bachelor” can rise to the occasion.